Frequently Asked Questions
"Your imperfections are what make you beautiful."
— Sandra Bullock
Nudity, Women and Bare Buns
A woman named Pat, who is a nurse from Chantilly, Virginia, wrote the following paragraphs on a nudists' discussion group. She was responding to a man's question on how other men got their wives or girlfriends to find enough courage to try nudism.
And here's another reply, from a man named Paul who lives with his wife and two daughters in Columbia, Maryland. Paul is responding to the same original question that Pat was answering. He tells about the outcome of his family's trip with Bare Buns, to a nudist park for a weekend:
In response to Paul's message, Pat wrote:
We've heard this, or something similar to it, many times. Almost always by women, but — surprise! — by an enormously diverse group of women. Some are very attractive, and are annoyed by being incessantly watched at work, at the mall and on the street; others are rather ordinary, and some are very out-of-shape and they feel like people are looking at them in a judgemental way. For the sake of their own physical health, perhaps they should lose a few pounds.
The reason for so many women saying the same thing, is that when they visit Bare Buns, they quickly begin to realize that nobody is looking, or admiring, or evaluating, or comparing. Some have said that nobody seemed to notice that they were naked. Indeed, many have told us that they soon FORGOT that they were not clothed!
At our club, you will see people with sags, stretch marks, scars from surgery or accidents, birthmarks, cellulite, and missing body parts. You'll quickly notice that nobody pays attention to that sort of thing, and you can be certain that we won't notice any imperfections, real or imagined, that you may have. You're going to learn that people accept you based upon the kind of person you are.
Many people have found an improved concept of themselves when they learn that we, who have seen literally thousands of other people without clothes, have learned to value people not on how attractively they can dress themselves, but what is in their heads and their hearts. Sure, we all want to look nice when we have to be dressed, but it's very important to feel good about the person who's under those clothes.
We know dozens of women who have said that they'd go to a nudist club if they could lose (ten, or thirty, or fifty, fill in the blank) pounds. Over the years, we've also met hundreds of women who have bravely visited, not worrying about achieving near-perfection first.
Most of those people say that the experience has enhanced their image of themselves. They get to see for themselves that others value them without concern for the standards of beauty set by outside society. They come to realize that physical attractiveness really is not an important criterion for choosing friends.
The one regret we hear, over and over again, is that once they've visited Bare Buns, women wish they hadn't wasted all those years before finding the courage to try us!
Last updated: January 19, 2005
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