Frequently Asked Question
"As a parent of two pre-adolescent daughters, I want them to grow up with healthy and realistic images of their bodies and not to use media images as a standard. I can think of no better way for them to learn that, than at nudist events. [My girls] have met many happy, intelligent people who are comfortable with their own body and respectful of other people's bodies, regardless of age, size, color, or shape."
— Margaret Sanchez, Springfield, VA
"Yet could it be possible, in the long run, to wear clothes without learning modesty, and through modesty lasciviousness?"
— C. S. Lewis in Perelandra
"We know it's hard to take your clothes off for the first time, but it's going to be much harder to put them back on when it's time to go home."
— Nudist Quote
Why would anyone want to run around naked among others?
People who have never experienced nude recreation wonder, "Why are you a nudist?" "What's the attraction?" "Why would anybody want to be naked in front of other people?"
Or they might say, "I can understand going nude at the beach or at a nudist park where there's a lake or a pool, but what's the point of going to clothes-free social events, especially if they're indoors?"
Those are reasonable questions, which many of us who are now confirmed nudists may have asked sometime in the past. Speaking from my own experience, it was a gradual progression. I'll attempt describe it for you.
I've always felt comfortable being nude in my own home, and that open-minded attitude continued after we started a family. We raised our children to believe that family nudity is OK, and I believe that mindset will help them to accept human bodies as natural, and not an object for perversion.
When we moved into a home that had a back yard with privacy, I learned how peaceful it could feel, weather permitting, to sit naked at the picnic table early in the morning with a cup of coffee, watching the squirrels and listening to the birds. From there, I learned that it also was very comfortable to be undressed in my private backyard in the evening with a glass of wine, ending the day with the crickets and the lightning bugs. Sweet serenity!
At that point, I never imagined that I would ever be able to relax in a similar way around others -- friends, acquaintances or total strangers. I've come a long way, baby!
Once, on a Florida beach, I had the opportunity to get rid of my swimsuit when nobody but my family was around, and it felt great! But let me warn you: If you swim once without a suit, you'll never want to wear a swimsuit again. There's no binding or tugging to try to cover up parts that feel a little too "exposed". No sand gets caught in your suit. Nothing cold and wet clinging to your skin, after the rest of your body has quickly dried off.
It just feels so natural, as if this is the way our Creator meant for us to enjoy nature.
Years later, after my marriage had ended, I went to the shore with a couple of lady friends, and we wanted to go naked on the beach. A waitress told us where we could find an isolated portion of the beach that was traditionally used by skinny-dippers. She had been there, she seemed like a very nice person, and she was encouraging.
We went there, and the feeling was so wonderful that we went back the next three days! It was very important that the others we saw there were respectful, and not at all sexually motivated. My greatest fears about the nude beach evaporated. It was one of the most exhilarating experiences I've ever had. I was hooked!
I was starting to learn that nudists (or naturists, as some call themselves) are, for the most part, trusting and trustworthy.
"Complete nudity in itself is not erotic.
It becomes so only when preceded by or contrasted to a state of
dress. In this limited context then, all clothes become somewhat
immoral, if we define immorality as inciting sexual interest.
Habitual nakedness may indeed be capable of elevating man to a higher
I returned many times to that beach, and took my children, who also enjoyed the naturalness of the whole thing. From friends we met at "our" beach, we learned that there was a private club that hosts indoor, wintertime activities. I decided to try that, but to leave the kids at home. I was a little unsure that indoor nudity would be as wholesome as I had discovered outdoor nudity is (I still hadn't quite grasped the fact that, just as it is possible to be sexual while clothed, it is possible to be non-sexual while unclothed).
Boy, were my concerns unfounded! Almost as soon as I arrived, I wished I had taken the kids. Nothing about the atmosphere was sexual. Lots of families had brought their kids, who splashed in the pool and cavorted just like they would have at a public pool, but without any body coverings. I met some nice people, and knew I would be back!
All the people I've met are courteous and well behaved. Some are quiet, others more engaging, but I can say with all honesty that you probably won't find any who you will not like.
The more I've gotten to know of them, the more comfortable I've become with them. Part of that comes from the fact that, although BARE BUNS doesn't have many rules, they are quietly but firmly enforced.
So, here I am today, able to go to social get-togethers in my friends' homes, or at Bare Buns' rec center parties, to chat or swim, play volleyball, or watch TV or a movie, or play games, without a stitch of clothes. They are people whose company I would enjoy even if we were not nudists, but once I discovered that these people are OK to be unclothed around, it feels very natural to slip off my clothes while I'm with them, just the same as I would do at home.
There's something about people who can be undressed around others without any kind of sexual intent. We humans are social beings, and if nudity at home feels good, it also feels good in a group where nobody has the wrong inclinations. This is hard to explain to someone who has never experienced it. Most of us who have tried it agree:
When no artificial barriers exist among people who consider nudity natural and un-erotic, you can feel the stresses of the outside world slip away! To me, this seems like the way we were meant to live.
There's a saying among nudists, when talking to those who are about to try it. We tell them that if you think it's hard to take your clothes off the first time, it's going to be much harder to put them back on when it's time to go home! I know it's true!
I hope this helps you understand why so many nice people enjoy clothes free recreation, and I hope that sometime soon, you'll find the trust and courage to "Take Off With Us!".
Last updated: July 28, 2003
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