Frequently Asked Questions
"Daniel and I just got back from vacation, which included a nice visit to a nude beach. I certainly noticed how the men there watched me. If it had been my first attempt at a clothes-free activity, I would probably have been intimidated. I commented on it to Dan, and appreciated again the atmosphere of non-intimidation you provide at Bare Buns activities. I did have a great time and won't hesitate to go back, but at the same time it helped illustrate the difference between a protected environment and one that's not. I know you get alot of flak from certain people about how you run the club, so I want to let you know that there ARE people who do appreciate the standards you maintain."
— Sandra Grisham, Ashburn, VA
"I just wanted to say that I had a great time last night [at a Bare Buns Rec Center Party] — I am getting to know some of the regulars, who are proving to be a very friendly bunch. I also got to talk with many of the first timers – who were very open and friendly also."
— David Kemp, Annandale, VA
"Thank you for the hospitality and the genuine welcome you extended to us. We like Bare Buns because of the way the club is organized, the positive family culture of the club, the gender balance, the very nice people...."
— Barb & Ray Harrison, Stafford, VA
Question: Will we find a comfortable balance between men and women?
Most people would feel ill at ease if we didn't maintain a reasonable and comfortable balance between the genders. BARE BUNS attempts to achieve that balance by actively appealing to single women and couples in a very sensitive manner, but still, we sometimes (infrequently) find it necessary to place single men on a waiting list.
Our North American culture is the basis for this potential imbalance. Here, much more than in some other parts of the world, we rear our children to be self-conscious about their bodies. The unspoken message is that there is something "dirty" or unacceptable about our bodies, and an aura of mystique results. When unclothed bodies are only seen in "girlie" magazines and R-rated movies, boys become excessively curious and girls become defensive.
As a result of this upbringing, North American women often need much more courage to visit a nudist club for their first time than men do. (It's interesting to note, though, that women frequently find their first visit so comfortable and relaxing that they are more enthusiastic about returning than their male counterparts! We've seen this happen many times.) Women tell us that they find it liberating to learn that they can relax au natural in a safe environment where they aren't looked at or thought of in a sexual way.
When Americans learn to treat the body as natural and wholesome, many of our social problems which stem from body acceptance will decline.
Single men and women are always welcome at Bare Buns. The ratio that we and many others try not to exceed is 60% of one sex or the other.
However, since Bare Buns has created an environment where so many couples, families and single women feel safe and comfortable, we often have openings for single men that go unclaimed. This is a nice problem to have, and it's one that few other nudist clubs ever have.
In fact, Bare Buns is the ONLY club we know of, that ever had to turn away a single woman because her presence would have caused over 60% of WOMEN, instead of having too many men. We didn't want to turn her away, but we felt that in the interest of justice, we must treat women the same way we do men. So we did the same thing we'd have done with a man, asking her to wait for our next event.
We also have a program of rewards for people who bring women and couples, whether experienced nudists or not, to one of our Rec Center parties for their first time. For every single woman we add, we can admit two more single men, and for every couple we add, we can admit one more man. Everybody wins!
This program was originally intended to encourage single men to bring their female friends, but in that regard it has met only limited success. So far, we've observed that it's the couples and single women, bringing more of their female friends, than the single guys.
Last updated: July 7, 2003
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